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Watch the TED Talk, “Frientimacy: The Three Requirements of…
Watch the TED Talk, “Frientimacy: The Three Requirements of All Healthy Friendships.” Take notes while watching!
Step 2: Review breakdown of sub-claims and support in this handout: PracticeAnalysisFrientimacy.docx below
Step 3: Select one sub-claim and support and think about whether the intended audience will find the support convincing. What tacit assumptions make the audiencelikely or not so likely to accept the support? In other words, what will they think about the support? Will they have questions, doubts? Will they believe the supportis authoritative, relevant, sufficient? What abouttheir background will make them likely to accept or doubt the support?
Step 4: Write a paragraphanalyzing the sub-claimand support. Present your topicsentence (your analysis), the information (reference to the argument), and the explanation (why the intended audience is likely to accept or reject the support). Cite the references to the TED Talk using in-text citations–no works cited page needed.
Main Claim: We are suffering from “an epidemic of loneliness” because we need to develop the three requirements for satisfying friendships.
Sub-claim 1: Many have dissatisfaction with friendship, loneliness (00:15-00:30)
Personal Example (01:05-02:28)
Survey Results: 6,000+ people, 50-70% reported feeling unsatisfied with closeness of friendships, 2-4 times more likely to say not at all than to say very satisfied (02:40-03:21)
Counterargument: solution is not to find more friends (03:25-03:30)
Sub-claim 2: We need three things for more intimate friendships
what “all the social scientists are saying” (03:38-03:10)
Things that make for best friends/good marriage (03:45-03:49)
Sub-claim 3: positivity, requirement 1
no one says they need “cranky, whiny, manipulative people” (04:10-04:13)
we want laughter, positivity (but not Pollyannacounterargument) (04:20-04:40)
social science tells us that for every 1 act of negativity, we need 5 positives (04:44-04:50)
Sub-claim 4: consistency, predictability, safe, requirement 2 (04:55-05:00)
if we don’t see people, we aren’t likely to stay friends with them (05:05-05:09)
consistency creates predictability (05:10-05-6:00)
Support: school friends, church, work (05:54-06:08)
Sub-claim 5: vulnerability, requirement 3 (06:25)
we want to feel loved, which requires feeling known, which requires vulnerability (07:00-07:09)
Sub-claim 6: our bodies are dying without the satisfying connections (08:18-08:28)
Dr. Ornish (NY Times best-selling artist and world-renowned physician) says, intimacy and love are most important for living a quality life, more so than diet, exercise, not smoking, genetics (10:08-10:20)
data from 148 longitudinal studies, published in PLoS Medicine, Brigham Young University, worse than smoking, obesity, alcoholism, not exercising (10:26-10:40)
former surgeon general Vivek Murthy, Harvard Business Reviewgreater risk of cardio disease, dementia, depression, anxiety…most common illness he saw during his practice. (10:53-11:51).
Counterargument: I’m not exaggerating, even though I’ve been known to do thatsome are saying it’s the #1 health problem (11:25-11:33).
Sub-claim 7: millions of people are not able to solve the problems of the world (e.g., terrorism) because of loneliness (11:53-12:21)
politics and religion are supposed to bring people together, but they don’t b/c of broken trust (12:21-12:50)
Sub-claim 8: need to practice developing three requirements
personal experience (13:31-14:48)
look at your own relationships (15:00-15:36)
shouldn’t feel shame around seeking more frientimacywonderful thing (15:41-15:50)
